Designing The Coaching Relationship:
Client Preparation Questions and Form
No two coaching relationships are exactly alike. The one that would work best for you is the one that takes into consideration your unique personality and preferences in how you relate to people who are trying to help you.
Here are a few questions to help me understand you better.
What process do you use when you are trying to make decisions about what you will do in your personal life, in your relationships, and in your ministry?
What process do you use to discern the will of God for your personal life, your relationships, and your ministry?
Tell me about the role God plays in your life.
In your experience, who have been the most helpful mentors and guides in your life? What did they do that made them so helpful, supportive and encouraging?
Who has hurt you or your ministry by what they said or did? What happened? How do you or your ministry suffer because of their actions?
“Right sizing” fears and concerns—Identifying your “Distractions”
As your coach, part of my job is to listen for “distractions” in your mind.
• Distractions are the voices in our head that can hinder our relationship to God or hold us back from fulfilling our purpose in life. They inhibit us or undermine our efforts to pursue our dreams and become the person God intended us to be.
• Sometimes Distractions offer helpful information, such as letting us know when we need to consider other factors, or when we need to be careful about taking a certain action step, or when pursuing our vision requires more thoughtfulness.
• However, when we give Distractions the wrong amount of power, then they cease to be helpful.
• One of my jobs is to help you identify your Distractions, help you to determine how much you are going to listen to them and what you are going to do with them. I’m also going to teach you how to dialogue with your distracters, when helpful, so that you can benefit from them but not be controlled by them. As a result, I may interrupt you at times, to identify or discuss the presence of Distractions in the course of our work together.
• Do you know already what some of your common Distractions are?
What else can you tell me about yourself that may help me to coach you better?
Accountability
Accountability is another important way that I, as your coach, can offer support to you to help you to realize your dreams and fulfill your purpose in life. A coach does not tell a client what to do. A coach asks a client if he or she has done what the client promised to do.
Session Preparation Form (SPF)
The SPF helps you, as the client, in several ways:
• It helps hold you accountable to your actions steps
• It helps you to think about how you want to use your spiritual life coach
• It helps you to express your thoughts and feelings to your coach
• It helps us to make the most out of our coaching sessions
© 2010 Timothy C. Geoffrion
Spiritual Life Coaching is a program of Faith, Hope and Love Global Ministries
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